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This blog was born out of my own experience of ending a situationship that left me feeling raw and confused. What started as journaling through my No Contact period has turned into a space where I can reflect, vent, and offer a perspective that I hope helps others. Whether you're working through a fresh breakup or have been single for a while, you’re not alone.

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Why This Blog?

 

I’ve always struggled with anxious attachment, that deep fear of being alone and the overwhelming need to be with someone. It’s something I’ve had to confront since becoming single, and I’ve been practicing a lot of self-awareness around it. One of the biggest challenges with anxious attachment is how it pushes me to confess feelings "too soon," leaving me vulnerable. It’s taken some time, but I’ve learned how to bounce back quicker after breakups. The No Contact method is new territory for me, and I’m hoping this blog can be a part of my healing journey while helping others do the same.

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The Story of “The Guy”

 

Let’s talk about him.

We matched on Bumble.

His profile had no details, just a few grainy pictures.

Still, something about him caught my attention, and we began dating.

 

Things were going well, or at least I thought so. After six weeks, I told him I liked him. That’s when he said he wasn’t sure about how he felt about me and that he probably shouldn’t be dating anyone at all. It crushed me.

 

A few weeks later, we met up as friends to see a movie, but my feelings hadn’t changed. He still didn’t know what he wanted, and I realised I had to walk away. He left the door open, saying, "who knows what’ll happen in the future," and, although I remained hopeful, I know it's not healthy for me to wait around.

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Core Values

 

Through this journey, I’ve found a few values that have anchored me:

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• Self-growth: The journey to becoming more self-aware and understanding my anxious attachment has been a game-changer.

• Emotional resilience: Bouncing back from setbacks has become easier, even if it still hurts.

• Self-worth: Learning not to settle for less than I deserve, even when my attachment style makes it hard to walk away.

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Why No Contact?

 

I’ve never tried the No Contact method before, but it feels like the next step in my healing process. It’s not just about getting over someone—it’s about rediscovering my own self-worth, setting boundaries, and allowing space for real emotional healing.

 

Through my posts, I’ll share my thoughts on this journey, what I’m learning along the way, and the ups and downs of trying to stay strong in the face of uncertainty.

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If you’re a woman in your 30s dealing with dating, breakups, and the emotional chaos that comes with them, grab a coffee (or wine!) and dive into my posts. I hope this space feels like a chat with a friend—honest, open, and a reminder that you’re not alone in this.